Ex-Wife-Fucked-Up-Edness

I'm having ex issues. And not my ex. My boyfriend's ex. I know I shouldn't let her get to me. I know I'm being the grown up by not addressing her shit. But holy damn I really want to kick her ass.

Some background:
My boyfriend is moving here for six months, and then we're moving back to Missouri together. He plans on visiting his daughter, who he only sees twice a month right now, once a month while he is here. We decided on this when his ex decided she wanted to move farther away from him, making it even harder to visit his daughter. Now she's pissed because she's decided now not to move yet, and she thinks he's leaving his daughter.

So she's publicly attacking us.

Check out how mature this "woman" is. She's on her third marriage. She has a child with my boyfriend. This CRACKS me up. I feel like I'm fucking 16 again.

http://cloudylissa.deviantart.com/art/Please-Move-to-Texas-68500767

i just don't understand her. I feel sorry for their daughter, because she doesn't deserve any of it.

She is remarried. She has her life. She hates her ex. So, I don't know why she just can't move on and let him move on. He's coming back! He's not abandoning his daughter!

More background: she friended me on MySpace before I knew who she was. There's also a blantantly horrid blog about us on there, but I don't have MySpace access at work. It's like she wanted me to find all of this.

You're right Runamuck, but everyone has issues. I have my own issues, and maybe they're why she's bugging me so much, I don't know. Everyone has been injured somehow or another in life. How you handle and carry yourself after them is up to you. I just think she's being really selfish in this situation, and I don't appreciate it. She can feel however she wants, but for her to post it so publicly, and so I would definitely find it.... wow.

I am just going to ignore her and be the adult. I just wanted to make sure I wasn't the only one who thought this was so fucked up.

Some comments from wise CMers:

1) So she controls the custody of her daughter but then insults him for not visiting?

2) I can only figure that she's frightened and thus acting this way because of that.

Stay calm, and you'll weather her fear much better.

3) "So, we decided instead of arguing with him once again..."

WE?? Oh god I hope she doesn't mean WE as in her and their daughter...yet I know that she does. I can't STAND that kind of behavior from parents. She's manipulating that child and using the child as emotional blackmail against your boyfriend. This will eventually make the child miserable and I have the feeling that this woman would actually ENJOY it if their daughter hated her father...which is so incredibly wrong. I get all of this just from the few words I read because I've seen this so very many times.

Just stay as far away from this woman as humanly possible. She's probably afraid of another woman being in her daughter's life and also has some jealousy residue going on. Don't play into her, don't communicate with her...just keep out of the entire situation as you possibly can and make sure your boyfriend follows through on his promises with his daughter or that lady is going to hang it over his head forever.

4) This woman is obviously got some emotional issues that these events have brought to the forefront, and unfortunately, you're having to deal with the bleed off. But my point is that yes, she's behaving badly, and that's not OK, but she's doing so because she's hurt and frightened. If you keep that in mind, it might make it easier to deal with her.

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My birthday weekend!

Oh. My. God.

It's my birthday weekend and I'm am SooooooOOooOOOO excited! I haven't been this excited about a birthday in some time. It may have something to do with my emotional situation right now. I think I can say I'm actually happy for a change. Or almost happy. Of course things could always be better. So maybe the word is "content."

I've recently accepted things that I can't change. I've realized there are things that I can change. And I think I've accepted the fact that I want to change myself. And I'm proactively working on it. Those things make me content.

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I was at work, without work today, and was fiddling around on the internet, as usual. I found myself daydreaming about possible vacations, some that I may never be able to take. I always find myself daydreaming about running away to another country, finding a beautiful man with an accent, and living happily ever after. I subconsciously (or consciously) found myself at Orbitz.com looking up a one-way ticket to Australia. Not round trip, one-way.
And I daydreamed more. $1500 could get me to Australia. It would take me forever to save that up, just to get there. If I went and stayed, I'd have to find work, and work a long time to save up just to get back. If I came back.
Could I do that? Could I leave everything, everyONE I know to live an adventure that may backfire on me? (much like most of the adventures I've already tried to live out here in the states?) I don't know. It's such a huge leap, and not like me. But I guess if it ever came to it, I could always come back. Right? Right!?

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